how to shut down attempts at dry humping?

But you can read?  And with the number of professionals you brag about booking, and the link prompting you that use of this site is agreeing to those rules... are clearly linked right there before you are allowed to contact a professional.  So according to you, you must have read them at least 20 times or more? 

using this site means you agree to follow the rules. That shouldn't matter if somebody else is choosing not to follow the rules. You yourself said you follow the rules, right? 

Morpheus

@fireandblue I am not confused about the rules. I know exactly what they are and as I said, I abide by them. Some pros do allow more, I didn't say that I partake in what they offer. It's a two way street in my opinion. Clients know the rules but try to push boundaries and pros who offer more than the contract states. I'm here to have friendly conversation, I am here in peace. I'm still feeling some animosity directed at me by you and I hope that I am reading this wrong.

While everyone was arguing I just had a great session with a great cuddler. Life's too short to be having royal rumbles among people who have nothing to do with people over stepping boundaries. Hugs and love to everyone.

Morpheus

I agree @Alternis and glad you had a great experience. I am not arguing btw :-)

greenearth2

Pros are not all alike.  Not even close.  
I just had a great session with someone in San Diego.   She was very nice and definitely followed the rules.   
But not all pros are like that.   Some offer topless cuddling or more.    once one does that the clients start thinking others will do it.  

greenearth2

Solo why do you bother ?   Lol.  
Its pointless 

snuggle554321

Comment that was made in the earlier:
you are trying to make perfect , the imperfect world we have,  good luck with that, I hope you succeed 
 My comments on that statement: 
 Previous things that were in our "imperfect world":  slavery, the inability for women to own property and other things in that category,  women's right to vote, segregation, equal rights, the acceptance of gays, lesbians…  

Some of these things have been completely abolished. Others we are still fighting but making progress in. 

 Effective ways of fighting unacceptable behaviors/issues:
Expression of out rage i.e. protests, verbalization of out rage...
Expressing support of the fight against the unacceptable behavior/issues.
There is power in numbers! No fight is too big when enough voices are raised against it! 

Ways of undermining the fight against unacceptable behaviors/issues:  
telling a person to calm down or stop drawing so much attention to a passionate and important issue because it might upset others.

The whole point of protests is to express passion on a topic and bring knowledge to others that there is a real problem that needs continued support out there in order to fight against the issue.
"You really need to calm down.  Honestly people why all the ranting." -  example of undermining an issue 
Telling someone to calm down or telling them how they should feel, will simply infuriate the person who is fighting against the unacceptable behavior/issue.
If this were to be done to a protest group, the protest group would become that much more infuriated and direct that feeling towards the individual that did the undermining. 

One of the best ways to resolve a situation when one individual has upset another individual. 
1.  Make a sincere apology to that person. (If you did not intend to and/or regret upsetting someone, then making a sincere apology to them will GREATLY help the situation.)
2.  If you agree with what the upset person was saying, be sure to verbalize that.  
3.  If you believe that what you said or did was misinterpreted, explain, in as much detail as possible, how you originally meant it. (Even if you have attempted to do this once before, try to do it again. It might have a greater effect this time.)
4.  Sincerely apologize AGAIN to reiterate your sincere regret of upsetting that individual.  (Help the person realize and focus on the fact that you truly did not mean to upset them. The second apology may will help drive the original apology home.)  

(1. Say what you're going to say. 
 2. Say what you're saying.
 3. Say what you said.)

It doesn't always resolve the situation (especially depending on how hurt the other individual might have been) but at least it is an attempt to help resolve the issue and possibly rebuild bridges. Apologies can go A LONG WAY when they are sincere!  

snuggle554321

By the way, not only should  clients be reported when such things happen but pros should also.  When you guys report a person who is not following the cuddle comfort rules it helps the individuals who do follow them.   Not wanting to cause problems is one of the biggest reasons why these individuals are able to stay here. Let's keep fighting together sweeties!  HUGE HUG!!!! 

Fire and blue even though you have block me from visiting you profile I hope you understand that , or , let try to explain , I hope that no harm comes to you and the law of averages says you probably won't have such an encounter again .  Every professional out there it would make sad myself and I'm sure others if you and they have bad experiences or bad clients . 
I have not hit the block you back button ., or anyone else .
It's a mean dog eat dog would out there  and the nature of this activity is definitely going to bring out some bad apples out of the woodwork , I do hope all you pros out there be safe .

Morpheus

One thing I forgot to mention is that of the 19 pros that I've cuddled with, not all have been from cuddle comfort. I met some of them on snugglebuddies and other sites all of which have basically the same rules as CC. Some of the pros I met on other sites are on CC but I may have not met them on here. 

greenearth2

Don't take it too hard.  Some people block anyone who disagrees with them. 
You did nothing wrong. 

Morpheus

I don't believe in blocking people. Even if you disagree with someone, you should keep the lines of communication open. The goal should always be to work things out, not to shut people out. Think about the issues in the world and between different countries for example, isnt it best to keep lines of communication open so that differences can be resolved for the betterment of mankind? The same thing goes for cuddle comfort in my humble opinion, the goal should be to resolve issues for the betterment of the site and cuddling as a whole. 

I_am_Polylover

Well said, @snuggle554321.

Morpheus

@Snuggle554321 there is fear of retaliation at times which is why some things aren't reported. For example, there's a male on this site who frequents these boards who you hold in high regard, that's been asking pros to cuddle nude with him. I have heard this from more than one pro about the same guy. Thy won't cuddle nude with him and aren't very happy about him having asked that of them. They don't say anything though because they fear retaliation and don't want their image harmed.

greenearth2

I can concur with what solo says 

Morpheus

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I_am_Polylover

If you have something to say to me then just say it rather than using lying innuendo to make it seem more damaging than the truth would be.

I_am_Polylover

Name your sources.

Morpheus

Why do you think it's you, Jim?

I_am_Polylover

You can't name sources, because there aren't any sources. You may actually have one source, but even that has been distorted.  When @Mark sends me a PM about hearsay regarding me asking pros to cuddle nude with me, am I supposed to think that you could be referring to anyone else.

Morpheus

I never named a name nor talked to Mark about this.

I_am_Polylover

I talked to the pro in question via private email, and she said her words were twisted.  I have no idea why you, greenearth, and some others seem to have made it your campaign to sow as much discontent here as possible. You have already upset at least 2 professional cuddlers to the point of considering leaving this site, and now it seems that because I have allied myself to them, you have started in on me.  At one point, I was willing to give the benefit of doubt to you, but after this, there is no doubt in my mind about you at all.

Morpheus

I didn't realize you had allied yourself to anyone. I'm really not sure what all you are talking about in your comment above. I never mentioned anyone's names but you are slandering my name and I would appreciate it if you would stop.

pmvines

For the love of Steve, can we just agree that people should not hump cuddlers whether paid or not, unless there is consent? too many caveots and what about this and you blah blah blah. it doesnt matter if someone has seen 100 cuddlers and spent enough money to put their children through college and pay for a wedding on paid cuddlers. if even one person is groping and humping, its not ok, and the negative experiece belongs to the one who has experienced it. not to anyone else. cant we just all agree that it is not good and not debate it as though the person is in the wrong for daring to speak about in on an open forum that is relevant to the topic at hand?

Morpheus

@pmvines  I agree with you, this topic has been so overdone that it's annoying he needs to stop.  We know what the rules are in a people break the rules they need to be reported, it's simple.  Thank you so much for taking the stance, @pmvines 

Yada yada. 
You see here I've contributed about as much as everyone else. Do I get a gold star or something.

greenearth2

Polylover I have no idea what you're talking about.  I haven't mentioned your nudity fetish in a long time when I told you it was a good idea to keep it to yourself since platonic cuddlers aren't going to be too keen on the whole nude thing.   

pmvines

Being condescending and passive aggressive doesn't really help either

greenearth2

Are you talking to me pmvines?? how am I being passive aggressive!?   
My last comment is exactly how I feel.  Nothing passive there, or aggressive.   

pmvines

no, I'm making a general statement and not directly speaking to anyone