What to wear when cuddling?

greenearth2

Yes that was dumb.

Brandi

Sure... you can take that comment as "dumb" or you can choose to listen to her opinion.... just like you have been trying to get people to see your perspective, you can try to understand why she said those things and use it to your advantage by understanding and learning what to say in the future....

People are obviously taking your comments in a different manner than you'd like... and she said those things honestly. Maybe she said what she said because you're possibly making people feel uncomfortable by making clothing such a "Must meet requirement." I know it made me pretty uncomfortable that it was SO important to so many of you, but I understand the concept of skin contact and I won't be driven out by that; I know I'm going to wear what I want to wear and I don't have to give service to anyone that doesn't want my clothed service, just like you don't have to come to me or anyone else specifically. But to someone new to this: yeah, they will leave because it comes off very perverted. You guys have mentioned that word (perv/pervert/pervy/pervalicious) in the past and lots of you got offended. I'm sorry, but some actions come off perverted whether you intend them to or not... and fighting for unclothed cuddling is slightly perverted in many perspectives (including her fresh-faced perspective).

Not to mention, you guys are extremely hostile to any one that doesn't agree.. She said she wanted to leave and then you called her dumb, that's just one example from many. She flat out said "there's a bunch of pervs here" "this site makes me uncomfortable" and "the men here are looking for sex" in her post. That isn't the truth of this site, but that's what it looked like to her and probably other visitors too; she was disappointed by what she saw, and there's sure to be others too. I've made this argument before, and now there's actual evidence to support the idea that all this talk drives away newcomers to the site.

Maybe this time you guys will actually take other perspectives into consideration, rather than saying "listen to my perspective, I pay" or "that was dumb."

She was talking to the people who said they cuddle nude. Nude is against the rules. I did not feel her comment applied to me or the two gentlemen above.

I am happy to listen to opinions and give advice. A pro mesaaged me earlier and asked my advice and I happily gave it to her. The person in question, all she says in her comment is basically, you're all perves who are looking for sex and deleted her profile. She never even gave anyone a chance.

I don't support clients that push the envelope. There are rules, they should be followed and both parties should treat each other with respect. If clients are looking for something more, they should go hire an escort which there are far more of than professional cuddlers.

By the way, how do we even know that profile was real? How do we know she wasn't banned by the admins for improper behavior?

Seemed like a fake account.

Felt like someone created a 2nd fake profile to say something they couldn't say on their real account.

Cuddle on, Cuddlers...

I_am_Polylover

@Alternis  Just to be clear, I never said I want to find someone to cuddle nude with.  What I said was that I would be willing to cuddle nude with someone if that is what they want.  I also said that I would dress in any manner that my cuddle partner would want me to.  My primary concern is always to make my partner feel as comfortable as possible,  Now you and/or Brandi tell me how that is in any way perverted.

@I_am_Polylover I never called you perverted just pointed out that the comment comecuddlewme made was geared towards any mention of cuddling nude. They deleted their account and are gone now so I don't think anyone else minds what two people do if they want to do it.

I Don't think Brandi was calling you a perv either since her comments are usually towards me and a few other people in socal. Not sure how not wanting to cuddle someone in jeans makes me a pervert, but the pros ive seen so far and the ones I will see in the future will all disagree.
Peace

Shadowrunner340

Wow, I didn't expect there to be so much controversy over cuddling attire.

Nude or not, I don't see cuddling in itself as any way perverted. Even nude with light touching and kissing doesn't have to lead to sex if you ask me.

The limit is with what a couple, whether they be new friends or long time lovers, is comfortable with.

Professional cuddlers (I had no idea that was a thing before a half hour ago) have as much right to define their limits as anyone. I don't know why that's even an issue.

Also, first post! My name's Robby.

Hell no that is not ok if you need to get laid go somewhere else but not a cuddle session i mean get real

@pillowfight so are you saying that sex shouldn't happen during or after a cuddle session? I'm pretty sure that there are plenty of married couples where cuddle sessions lead to sex. Maybe you should rephrase and clarify your comment so that it makes sense.

hey anyone for a hospital gown ?  
Open in the back for the skin lovers 
covered in the front for the clothing police 


everyone happy

irene

i could cuddle naked and not be sexual, but i'd need a high element of trust from the guy that he would not be.

greenearth2

It is definitely possible to cuddle naked and not have sex. I've done it before. But not everyone can. They are too horny I guess lol.
It's best to avoid it unless you become super close and trusting with someone.

I_am_Polylover

@Irene I think that in order to develop the trust you need for nude cuddling, you would probably have to cuddle clothed at least once with the person. This is from a person who considers himself to be very trustworthy.

docgatorb

Isn't becoming super close and trusting one of the goals of cuddling? Are you ever outside your birthday suit. Now, I don't expect a judge to ever be smart enough to believe that asexual cuddling is something people do, especially as a business

I_am_Polylover

I am always in my birthday suit, but I often wear clothing over it. ;-)

I prefer to wear a shirt or tank top with yoga pants, leggings, or shorts. I prefer the other to wear pj's or shorts and a shirt. Basically anything you're comfortable to cuddle in. Clothes must be present. 

I believe that nude cuddling should only be done with your partner, not what this site is intended for.

Jeff2025

All these people talking about cuddling naked XD
Yeah, no. I'll settle for a fun conversation with tlc.

Is anything about cuddling actually being discussed or is this just another lame chat room with no real encounters for those who genuinely want to feel affection from some ones five minute fingers? Long winded i supposed. Just looking for some one to walk in the woods and cuddle in whatever attire im wearing that day. If i happen to be naked that day...awesome if i find you naked out there too. I agree though, if you are on here to cuddle whats the point of being naked? Save it for your partner is well said.

funandadventure

Hi all, I would like to put my two pennies worth in, I work with the aged. What to ware, we have a standard for cuddling. All cuddlers and patents are to be clothed, Skin contact is encouraged but only in certain areas. Hands, feet, legs no higher than knees, head, face and sholuders, arms. Stroking and massage ( help with blood circulation ) are paramount. I personally use long or short yoga/harem pants depending on day/evening temperature, with a tie strings, on my top is a shirt with tie string all are made specially from Bamboo and cotton mix, very soft and white ( show's up every stain ) cool in summer and warm in winter, No buttons,no elastic. I have about 6 sets and need more. All for now John.

pmvines

Whatever you and your partner feel ok with wearing makes the most sense to me. I have seen a pro a few times and she feels fine with me just wearing boxers while she wears sleep shorts and tank top. She is comfortable with me so is a little more trusting. I did see someone once off of backpage for a massage. We hit it off really well and are now cuddle buddies. We are typically nude, as she has already seen me naked and gave me full body massage and she is a bit of a naturalist herself so has no issues with nudity. Would not expect that with a pro, for obvious reasons.  No sex, I wont say I don't get a bit turned on but I am able to keep things compartmentalized. I don't expect anything to happen nor does she. Just cuddles. I say if you are two grown consenting adults, wear and do as you please!!  

Personally, depends on how much communication and how comfortable you feel. But naked is the best sometimes.. doesn't have to sexual .

psp100

Ultimately it's what both parties feel comfortable with. Although nude cuddling provides a far greater sensual experience, I personally would always be fully clothed when cuddling someone for the first time. I cuddle both male and female friends, some prefer nude, some prefer clothed. When I first started nude cuddling I had concerns about the sexual element corrupting what should be a mainly sensual experience. And at that time, as a straight guy, I used to be more comfortable cuddling other guys because I felt there wouldn't be a sexual element getting in the way. In reality there wasn't the mind shift needed that I had expected. And whilst the sensual and the sexual can sometimes get blurred on occasions (we are human after all), concentrating on the amazing sensual feelings that come with a great cuddle allow us to refocus.      

funandadventure

@psp100. Dear PSP, well put, nice to hear an open thought on the most confusing part of cuddling.
Thank you for that.
Love you all John, Auckland NZ

I_am_Polylover

@psp100  I very much appreciate your post.  It echos my feelings on the subject.  Nudity does not equal sexuality!

funandadventure

@loveholdingyou. Dear Love, I have never found it to be a problem since cuddling is a health procedure and nothing else, no not a problem.
Love to all John.Auckland NZ

pmvines

@loveholdingyou it depends on the context and comfort level of the person, everyone is different

hello2016

What ever you want to wear

pmvines

I prefer a fencing outfit. if I'm feeling classy, a will add a bowtie

psp100

@loveholdingyou. You may find cuddling another guy awkward to start with, but after a while it should feel fine. Ask yourself: what's the origin of my feeling of awkwardness? More than likely it's societal. In which case, cuddling in private is the solution.