Does anyone have any tips for newcomers on how to find a person to cuddle with? Do you have any advice on how to stay safe?
Depends. If you want a pro, just book with one. Do a video chat beforehand, check to see if they have any karma, and you can always meet a in public first to get a feel for the person. There aren't a ton of male pros, but there are some.
If you're looking for an enthusiast, take the time to get to know them. Don't rush yourself. If you are worried about safety, it might be better to meet in a hotel rather than at your house or theirs.
In just my experience have some fun pictures. You can reach out and introduce yourself to people in your area if you are comfortable. And really just be kind, friendly and up front. I would also suggest making sure your schedule allows for the cuddle if you book one. Things do come up but there is nothing more annoying than being a nosey show or a flake
You may find these threads helpful:
Understanding Boundaries & Etiquette
How to Create a Great Profile
Meeting Somebody From The Internet – Safety Precautions
Top Tips for New Enthusiast Women
I'm a non-pro woman on this site, and here's what I look for in a first message.
How I found happiness on Cuddle Comfort (man seeking enthusiast women)
How I Found Happiness on CC Part 2: The First Meeting
It is easier to believe
How To Choose Your Professional Cuddler
The Perfect Opening Message (to a professional)
Ten Things Your Professional Cuddler Wants You to Know
How to Save Money on Professional Cuddling
Trust your gut, be open minded … find your fit. It takes time. Look at peoples profiles. Ask questions… think about what you want out of the session. It’s ok to say no. FaceTime or zoom to get a feel first. Have fun, enjoy your ventures- I love this forum and have had so much fun meeting new people.
The OP has already deleted their account but I will share my response for anyone who may have the same question.
Take a minute, or 60, and ask yourself, “What am I doing here?”
Seriously. Think about what you are looking for and what you really hope to get out of any online and/or in-person interaction you may have with people on this site.
In the 3+ years I’ve been on this site I have interacted with some truly wonderful and amazing people. People I would risk my life to protect.
I’ve also interacted with a few people who are among the most bitter / angry or manipulative people I have met in my life.
The bitter / angry ones GENERALLY show their true colors online if you give them enough time so don’t be in too big of a hurry to meet people in person.
The manipulative ones are just as dangerous (if not more so) but in a completely different way. They are also harder to identify as they are masters of manipulation and they know how to camouflage their words and actions to get past your defenses.
This website, just like the world in which it exists, is filled with both good and bad people. If you go slow and exercise discernment, you should be fine. But if discernment just isn’t your thing, you should reconsider being on this site.
If you get the “uh oh” feeling, trust it! All money ain’t good money, it’s okay to turn people away. When I was a guest in someone’s home, if someone else is in the home at the same time (like one of their family members or friends), I would rebook. I’m not risking being overtaken by two people. I got a better chance of fleeing when it’s only one person around. If you host, be sure to have a camera setup outside/living area. My bff has my location at all times on my phone. KEEP THAT “THANG” ON YOU AT ALL TIMES..except for when you are cuddling.🤭
@JohnR1972
I'd like to meet this master of manipulation lol (I know you were being serious, and it's a good idea to keep your guard up) but who are these people?
-side note, I've actually been called that
We just have to be careful about the image of this website that we represent to new people.
@lonelytauros .....dam lol
I don't want to make light of what is being said, I am fairly new. And people can be a problem. Let's just not scare the new people too much..
You can probably count on the ones that don't stay to talk bad about places they leave behind.
We want - What a great website I'll tell my friends to join
We don't want - What a scary place I'll tell my friends to stay away
@Dance_Culture Like I said, this site is a reflection of the world in which it exists.
There are a lot of good people here as well as a lot of the other kind. The bad ones are usually banned shortly after they do some type of harm (inappropriate messaging or inappropriate conduct in person) and are reported. However, there is an endless stream of new people joining this site to take their place.
The manipulators exploit the vulnerable for personal gain.
Hello! Good thread here with lots of tips for navigating cuddling.