I am kind, sensitive, empathic and health conscious. I’m looking for Marin county local cuddle buddies or cuddle buddies willing to travel to Marin county only.
Ideally I am wanting to develop a small supportive local “cuddle puddle - community“ based on the rules/ boundaries of platonic consensual touch established within the Cuddle party format and this website. For me this creates a safe container for developing new cuddle and friendship connections with other like minded beings.
Safe, nurturing, holding and touch are basic human needs. We are literally hardwired for it and most of us don’t get enough of it. I know it can be very healing to the body and soul. An attitude touch or holding literally can fosters a sense of well-being for both the giver and receiver. I love its symbiotic nature.
In fact, when there is a higher residence within the Cuddle connection, it can be what I call a corrective, somatic healing experience. And boy oh boy, what a gift that is from the universe. Those types of relationships/residence usually are something that develops over time for me, however, on rare occasions sometimes it happens right out of the gate with a new connection.
I’d prefer to host, but I’m willing to be a guest in someone’s home as long as they do not own a cat and are in Marin. I have severe cat allergies. 😢 And I don’t travel much these days ( just in Marin county).
I like to have a brief phone conversation first and then meet for tea or at the park to give us both a sense whether we mutually feel like cuddling together. It's helpful if you have a profile picture or are willing send me a current picture - I like to get a sense of a person's energy early on ( And of course, I will do the same). In case we decide we want to cuddle, basic cleanliness and smell are important to me. I like natural smells as I am chemically sensitive - clean human smells and essential oils are great. And it's always extra nice to snuggle someone who has recently bathed!
I’ve listed I want to cuddle with “women” in my profile, but really gender is not as important to me as the person. I selected women to narrow the algorithm search-ability strategically. 😉 Plus, I’d really like to focus on supporting a network of women who are like-minded and valued cuddling as part of their self care regime.
I will consider cuddling with a man if he is local. However, I’m primarily looking for women cuddle buddies at this point. We all need a safe container to connect in and my heart goes out to women who are having a hard time getting their platonic touch means met. Basically, in my experience, this site is primarily men and professional cuddlers. There are so very few active female cuddle enthusiast on this site. However, I want to hold space in hopes, to be a part of changing that in the months and years ahead. 😊
I’m not heavily into the massage thing while in a cuddle sessions. Generally, in my experience that been a strategy men have used it as a gateway to escalate into more sensual or sexual intimacy. This is not the place for that and those are not the type of connections I am looking for. I keep clear communication and boundaries in and around that and I expect whoever I cuddle with to do the same.
A caveat however, is with acknowledging I do love it when I can get a good foot massage. 😉 It is s very grounding for me. One of my healing practitioners recently said, it is the gateway with my system to opening up more to receiving more healing in him option because I’m so responsive. I can definitely taking the nourishment at the feet if the touch is right. Maybe that’s because of all the meridian lines there and there are more nerve endings there than anywhere else on the body collectively. A good/skilled foot massage can help send energy to all different parts of the body.
I’m also realizing one of the things I am missing without being in a more traditional partnership now is the cuddling that is involved with watching a movie or a show together. I’m currently entertaining when and where that might be a possibility to how that might work with some establish cuddle relationships. The other awareness that I recently bubbled up for me is remembering how much I love to be read too well cuddling. That’s an activity that I’m the past has been primarily reserved for being in my long-term relationships, but seems like a silly limitation now. (sometimes we make up rules and forget to question why we made them up or if they’re still serving us or are we serving them …) Adding it to cuddle relationship when both parties are open to it could be lovely.
I had one lovely cuddle buddy and partner (years ago), who reader to me regularly at night, and it helped with my insomnia challenges. It really was a beautiful gift and I still think of it fondly. So, I think maybe adding some of that in and when the mix is right could be fun.
The bottom line in my opinion is “cuddle- time” is Happy-time! 😊
P.S. I’m reticent to bring this up since it’s been such a polarizing issue in our culture theses days. However, denying it’s a potential challenge/issue is not wise either. Plus that’s not how I like to roll - I am pretty upfront and direct in my communication style . The net/net is I am unvaccinated currently on the advice of my medical team. I have some autoimmune challenges (nothing contagious ). I am very conservative with who and how I am interacting with others . I do believe in wearing a mask initially until I get to know wear people are falling on
The spectrum of exposure. Sio, if we were to move forward with a cuddle connection I would ask that you would wear a mask also. I apologize if that’s a dealbreaker for you, however, it is the paradigm I am needing operate right now. I am indifferent to your vaccination status. Basically, I am open to people anywhere on the vaccine spectrum. I trust in each of our individual needs and desires about what is right and the best self care for ourselves. Thank you for understanding… Just want to be respectfully upfront.
I am officially as of May 2023 starting to cuddle with people without masks.
I’ve make a “cuddle space “ with a camping mat on my living room floor for cuddle connection. In addition, I also have a loveseat that can be used for a cuddling connection if that’s preferred. Options in my opinion foster choice and alignment with one’s true Self. (I am a big advocate for supporting that…)
Cuddling is good for your health - here’s a link that supports the science about that. Please look at it if you’re interested,
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.mic.com/life/cuddling-with-your-partner-does-something-surprising-to-your-health-16329853/amp