maaarrkk

Hello! How are you?

My name is Mark!

I love cuddling.

Along with air, water, and food: affectionate touch and belonging are psychological and physiological needs we have as human beings to be happy and healthy.

We live in an increasingly unhappy society. We live in an increasingly isolated and proudly individualistic society. These things aren't unrelated.

What is this insanity of knowing how much our furry mammal friends in cats and dogs love regular touch and being near us.. and get upset when deprived of this..

..and we know the distrust and biting anger that builds in strays deprived of touch and belonging..

….yet, we act like humans beings are healthy happy and at a neutral baseline when deprived of it?

We need to automatically recognize it as a big flashing ’danger’ sign both for one’s own person and to others when humans go without affection.

For things to change:
Our modern-day belief of affection only being something within relationships with mates who check-off every ideal has to bend.

I’d love to see the elevation of a new way of thinking about affection where we don’t spend years alone trying to shop for the perfect mate - and then when we do have a mate - we spend our time not fully accepting them because we are still looking for the perfect mate and looking for them to satisfy this and comparing them to others for how they are not the perfect mate (comparison is theft of joy.)

I’d love to see ideas of affection only being expressed through dating and finding a perfect mate take a big ol’ honkin backseat to the immediacy of the scientifically proven fact:
we need affection and touch!

I’d love to see men and women and non-binary folks get together for regular cuddling, and regular not having to sleep alone, under the banner of knowing that we are each mutually much much better off in our mental and physical health through doing so!

More practically about me, or what cuddling with me might be like:

I think I’m a decent conversationalist. Secret deep admirer of random "ordinary" people's lives - so I tend to take an active interest in others.

I love finding warm, deep, and rich conversation with anyone. I'm a big proponent of universal love.

I’m also sometimes quiet though for stretches. But am ok about being quiet!

When I was younger I’d get more anxious about moments of quiet with others.. now, I don’t see that anyone has to “perform” socially .. and that quiet is nice. The night sky, clouds, trees, lakes are all pretty quiet.. they are all pretty nice, real lovely actually.

Passion sources of curiosity:
Things paranormal related. Deep thinking. Psychology. Meditation. Hunter gatherer pre-agriculture ways of life. Art. Shifts in perspective facilitated by drugs (I state this reluctantly because drugs are so stigmatized as dangerous when many offer wondrous healing potential. I'd never enter a cuddle session with a new person while under the influence. I don’t do hard drugs or use any drug on a daily basis except for sugar, internet, and the stimulation of my own mental chatter.)

Thank you for visiting my profile!

Have a nice day!