CuddleSquid

I seek kind, accepting, caring, understanding, compassionate, thoughtful, adaptable, incredibly cuddly beings to try to grow budding friendships into thriving cuddle friendships that we both feel safe in.
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I am always touch-starved and seeking cuddle buddies who experiences that a LOT too!


I really appreciate good hygiene in cuddlers when we meet, and upkeep of nail care and skin care of hands as much as possible when it comes to cuddle time. I'm hypersensitive to sharpness, roughness, and scents. (And please wash your hands with soap after any bathroom trip... PLEASE...ahem. Many don't.)


I love continual touching, active cuddling, and being affectionate whilst doing almost anything, ordinary things, in between fully active cuddles! If/when you/we don't have the energy, holding each other and being still can be swell too. But I do especially love more active affection, and it works better for my pain (both giving and receiving.)


Not required, but I greatly miss dancing on / with people so much, in and out of bed (but mostly in bed because of my disabling chronic pain), with NO EXPECTATION or attempt at crossing the line into sexual. I love sensual touch while still being in the context of comforting and sweet and non-sexual !

I do not feel safe or comfy enough cuddling with no connection (online beforehand esp!), and don't want it to feel forced at all. Make an effort and have patience. Making me feel safe should be important to you, as it is to me for you. No one is doing it back.


420 friendly. I use it medicinally; it's okay if you don't want to be around it but are still generally fine with it. I can only do indica now and mostly only pill form, which are great / best for cuddling, but I want to be comfy sober with you first! (Though there is a slight chance I'll have to use it initially if I'm in too much pain and don't want to cancel, if that's okay. Not ideal but meah.)




I enjoy different types of affectionate touching on different parts of me, depending on current pain / temperature factors and general preferences and needs.


Are you willing to take it slow, build trust through asking for consent a lot, and willing to LEARN me? I am ALL about explicitly consensual and SCIENTIFIC cuddle experiments!


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I love animation and voice actors! I love deep and unique voices. I love musicians. If you sing or play for me I would be very happy. I really miss live music and am a very attentive and appreciative audience. Please sing to me. And maybe read to me? To each other? 📖 🎙️ 🎵 📻


I also enjoy comedies, sci fi, fantasy, dramedy, and musicals. 📺 ✨


I've been listening to podcasts a lot lately! Recs welcome!


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I struggle a lot with Bad Sound triggers from my misophonia and/or Sensory Processing Disorder. Some times are extra hard. I need soothing and less complex sounds so soul, chill hip hop, acoustic, smooth jazz, a capella, and R&B musics are generally best right now.

Music suggestions and sharing is wonderful and appreciated! Share with me music you love!

I also love songs about affection! 🥰 🎶


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I'll potentially cuddle with anyone respectful if we're compatible, but extremely frustratingly, in my experience, men oftentimes end up disrespecting boundaries, sooner or later, often soon. When I say I want only cuddles, I mean it, nothing changes that, and you should never be trying to change my mind. If you think I'm turned on or even if I am on some physical level, I STILL only consent to cuddles! THAT'S MY PURSE; I DON'T KNOW YOU!


On top of common boundary issues, men are also more likely to have sharp facial hair stubble, and often don't act very self-aware about it when cuddling. Bad pokies. It's a struggle.


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Let's talk about cuddle sutra!!!!!!!!!! There's a whole world of possibilities for cuddling positions and types of touch!!!!! Not only are they super fun and delightful to switch up, I also need it with my chronic pain!


This has a really nice display of cuddling options (though everyone should be learned and treated as an individual with their own specific preferences and needs and that totally varies once actually discovering you have CHOICES when it comes to touch and affection!!!!)

http://uonlgbt.weebly.com/uploads/1/2/3/1/12319249/35078612-the-cuddle-sutra.pdf


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You must wholeheartedly agree with F.R.I.E.S. consent practices! Vital! SIGH.

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I'm very progressive politically, and I care about sharing values with friends. Don't tolerate intolerance.

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Sweet lady cuddles are the best! I deeply miss safe, sweet, lovely lady cuddles! They really hit different.

(Using that term cause it's a reference to a sweet fictional relationship.)

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If you're interested in growing a friendship and *potentially* cuddling with this magical fat femme and are within the age range or at least VERY close, please let me know! Definitely much more comfortable with those in their 30's, but will consider mid-late 20's and early-mid 40's somewhat. It matters, and you can't convince me otherwise.


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PS: If you are mean to or look down on fat people, I'm not for you.


You do not need to be attracted to me for platonic cuddles, but that is still important to me to even be friends and to feel safer around you.


If you feel the need to be physically/ sexually attracted to someone for nonsexual cuddles, I may worry (more) about your intentions. We may not match up well enough physically, but you never really know.


I do not care what you look like and am open to all bodies and would never rule out anyone from body type alone, but I have found that people shorter than me tends to work better for me and my needs and my bed (relating to my chronic pain and adjustable bedframe). And I think currently medium/average/small-fat sized people tend to work out the best for the most comfortable cuddles with my current (larger than my usual large) size and pain, but we can always see if we can make it work with different positions. ❣️



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PPS: Onesies are super encouraged, especially animal/ creature ones! And silly, warm hats, especially if they're soft.


Also, soft clothing in general is much appreciated, I have sensory sensitivities and can only touch soft-enough things; I can touch you through blankets only if needed, but soft clothes are better; I'm happy to let you borrow soft clothes if need be; I have soft leggings that seem to work well enough on wide range of body sizes. Soft socks or any socks are SUPER appreciated; toenails tend to be sharp and feet tend to be rough (and cold in my house.) Why must "man socks" be so horrifically textured?


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PPPS: I really want to create more affectionate imagery for myself and the world. If you are comfortable potentially taking photos and gifs / videos showing affection please let me know. ❣️ No pressure. I so regret not asking more in the past!

Currently I do this mostly with stuffed animals (and my own body) both because I find it cute and soothing, as do some close friends, but also to demonstrate different types of touches sometimes! If you would also enjoy that and have plushies or pets or someone to show affection, I would enjoy seeing and sharing that too!

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COVID '22-'25 UPDATE: Open to cuddling in person, but I'm still very conscientious of the risk of covid and long covid as someone high risk, and require even more patience and getting to know each other first. I need people to try their best to keep me safe! In every way!

If you're still willing to wear a mask to cuddle, it means so very much to me. It'll be worth it! 🥺🥹

All the bonus points in the world if you actually still mask when in public / groups / high risk events. Sigh.

Still open to trying to e-cuddle, never did find that again during this.