@sammysnuggles Infinite patience. Because every enthusiast woman on here gets buried in messages offering free cuddles, there isn't a lot of demand for male pros.
Have you ever wished to be bad dangerous and a smooth criminal - just like Michael Jackson ???
@WriterGF - He cuddles men too per his profile so he might have a chance.
@Mike403 True.
The fact that this client tried to get over on prices because I’m a new cuddler is ridiculous.. he said I should give him 50% off for cuddling overnight …
Like please find some cheaper . Everyone have a choice.
Can a person put they charge if they are not a professional
@Barbara48 No, and if you see that, report them. Charging when you're not a pro can get you banned.
I have a question. .. I am still fairly new to this site, how in the heck does a virtual session work? I just had someone message that to me and I'm not sure what or how to respond. How would that even work
@Amber1983 there is a sticky topic on the Professional Cuddling board about virtual cuddling. It does work, but you need to read up on it first.
How do you delete pictures sent in private messages?
@Lotus0007 I don't believe that you can.
Why do some Pros ask to be sent a photo when photos are already public and available on my profile that the Pro may or may not visit while we're exchanging messages?
@TxTom some professionals, like some clients, aren't clever enough to look at profiles.
More commonly, I believe many professionals never bother to look at clients' profiles because so many of them are blank. When you are receiving quite a lot of enquiries, most of which will never come to anything, the amount of time a professional could spend looking at blank profiles does start to add up.
I saw a local profile with no payment terms...just a price. I sent a booking request through the book now button, with a time and day suggested and offered cash. She has been online several time since, but no reply. Should I assume I was not accepted for some reason? Seems anyone that says they are a pro wants bookings and would respond, even if to say they are not available. Have another question, but different topic so will post separately. Thanks.
There is a lot of info here about keeping men in a platonic mindset, which I totally understand. But, I see a few profiles with some pretty suggestive photos, including one pro with an open shirt, no bra and some under boob showing. What are we to think of that profile or are just supposed to avoid it to stay out of that gray vacuum area??
@ALittleHelp unfortunately the experience you describe is very common. Don't worry about it, just move on and ask somebody else. It is frequently necessary to contact three or four professionals before finding one you match with.
No, you should not assume you were not accepted. There are 87 million possible reasons for the lack of reply and only a handful of them involve you.
Almost all professionals are very part time, and many are new and inexperienced. For most it's their first time being on the other side of customer service. History teaches us that from the clients' perspective, modest expectations - very modest - are the way forward.
You may find these threads helpful:
How To Choose Your Professional Cuddler
The Perfect Opening Message (to a professional)
Ten Things Your Professional Cuddler Wants You to Know
How to Save Money on Professional Cuddling
Understanding Boundaries & Etiquette
How does one actually become an enthusiast, you just say "hey I'm an enthusiast"or what's the deal ?
@TeddyCuddle45 yes. 'Enthusiast' is the catch-all term that has evolved to meet anybody in the cuddle world is does not, or not currently, act as a cuddle professional or client thereof.
It is possible for an individual person to be a member of all three groups - enthusiast, professional and client - or any combination of two.
The fourth group, not officially respresented on this site, are the people who run cuddle workshops and parties. Many of these, although not all, are cuddle professionals in the sense of offering individual cuddle sessions to clients. Some are cuddle professionals in the sense that they earn money from the parties/workshops. However many of these events are run for love, and the fees only cover the costs.
How much would a cuddler charge for a 3 hour drive to meet a client with a 3 hour session
@Southernembrace Each Pro Cuddler sets her own rates individually, so it could vary by quite a bit. Also some offer discounts for more than 1 hour. Travel costs are usually in addition & separate cost. Thoroughly read all the way through a profile to see if that information is already listed. You can message and ask. let her know you’re interested, and provide information about yourself and what you’re hoping for.
Thank you
Comprehensive article. Thank you 😊
"good advice in previous 2 posts. Someone who hasn’t firmed up a booking but wants to chat on the phone likely wants to negotiate out-of-bounds services, or perhaps just wants to suck you into a phonesex session."
wish I read through this before just answering all the dms I got. I moved some off site, and more than one has devolved into narcissistic behaviors from the other person.
is it against the rules to even as a nonpro use their rules and best practices for everyone anyways? I didn't want to be open to cuddle literally anyone yet. I wasn't looking to get paid. I just wanted to get my hair brushed, and some of these people make me feel like I'm a prostitute just for wanting someone to come hug me. it's really gross. I don't want to be dehumanized. the point of joining to find people to cuddle with is for positive vibes.
I already did hookups for years and stopped because I already know that isn't for me anymore. I don't want that. pros have good rules. it's sad if I'd have to apply for that just to be able to vet people more thoroughly
@graceangel I'm really sorry to hear you've had such unpleasant experiences here. Sadly, they are all too common. It is more than possible for a woman enthusiast to meet nice men on this site who will help you in the way you would like - many women do - but it usually takes a certain amount of time and effort.
Top Tips for New Enthusiast Women
I'm a non-pro woman on this site, and here's what I look for in a first message.
Meeting Somebody From The Internet – Safety Precautions
Yes, as an enthusiast you may use any habit or protocol of professionals that you like. The only thing you may not do is charge in any way. The site does not conduct any kind of vetting of members - this is a social networking site - and professionals are subject to the unpleasant behaviours you described just as much as enthusiasts are.
If finances and other circumstances permit you may wish to consider hiring a woman professional cuddler. All professionals are supposed to accept anybody suitable as a client, and there are many women professionals who accept women clients. There are very, very few men professionals, and most of these are inexperienced to the point of naivity or even delusion.
Can I advertise a neurodivergent discord server that I'm part of? Probably in DMs, to avoid trolls and bigots. There's a few people here I've seen who would benefit from such an environment.
It's not just autism and ADHD, but all forms of neurodivergence and many forms of mental health issues.
@IronLemon I suggest running that by @Mark or @Gary
Would it be possible to have someone come with me to a session? Really think I would feel much safer with a "body guard" in standby considering I'm meeting up with people I've never known before and getting so close. Would this be something that me and the other party must agree to as part of the rules for our session?
Comment moved to "Suggestions" thread.
@Madison0332
I personally think the need to bring a “bodyguard” to a cuddle session would absolutely be a deal breaker for most guys.
I say guys because I am assuming you are a female Pro.
There is an energy and intimacy to cuddling and bringing a bodyguard is really wild and gives off a whole different kind of vibe.
Everyone obviously should take whatever security measure they feel would help them be secure but this seems way over the top and sounds really wacky.
I definitely would not want to cuddle with someone who felt I may be a threat to them.
You also stated you would like to “bring a bodyguard” which implies you will go to the client's home.
I think most guys would be really startled by such a request and would decline the session.
If you are that concerned for your safety that you would need to bring security to a person’s home while you cuddle-Maybe cuddling is not the best fit for you.
@Madison0332 I’ll be really curious to see the responses to your question. Personally, I feel that if you need a bodyguard (And honestly, there are some bad behaving people here so I understand how you feel) Maybe this isn’t the right place for you. You may feel fearful possibly and not able to enjoy a session. It’s hard because you don’t always know what you’re walking into. Just be sure to do a lot of screening including video calls, possibly meet in public first. Saving photographs and have a friend who knows where you will be if you are going to be a guest at a strangers house. I don’t go to other peoples homes, Normally, I host. I feel more secure that way. I don’t like the idea of going to strangers home.